What to Do When Your Child Doesn’t Want to Go to Class
It’s a phrase every karate parent hears at some point: “I don’t want to go to class today!”
You may have heard it too (and if not, you will) even when you know they have a blast once they’re here on the mat.
So why does this happen, and what can you do as a parent to help?
Remember, this is Normal!
Even kids who love martial arts will sometimes resist going. After school, they may be tired, hungry, or simply want downtime/screen time at home. The resistance doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy training – it usually just means they’re having a moment.
Focus on the Big Picture
Remind yourself why you enrolled:
- To build confidence and discipline
- To improve focus and respect
- To learn grit and resilience
- To learn self-defense
These qualities are built over time, not in a single class. Missing occasionally is fine, but making a habit of skipping can chip away at those long-term benefits and can negatively impact a child’s confidence if they feel like they’re falling behind. Consistency over quantity is KEY.
Use Encouraging Language
Instead of “You have to go,” try:
- “Remember how proud you felt after class last week?”
- “I know it’s hard to get going, but you always come out smiling.”
- “Let’s just get ready and go. If you still don’t want to after class, we’ll talk about it.”
This shifts the focus from a battle of wills to a reminder of their own positive experiences.
Keep Routines Consistent
Kids thrive on routine. Treat martial arts class the same way you treat going to school, brushing teeth, doing homework, or bedtime. The more consistent the habit, the less room there is for negotiation.
Celebrate Their Commitment
When they do rally and go to class, acknowledge it:
“Great job pushing through even when you didn’t feel like it. That’s what black belts do!”
This helps kids link perseverance with positive reinforcement.
Partner with the Instructors
If they’re giving you a hard time, talk with our instructors. Sometimes all it takes is a pep talk from their sensei or setting a short-term goal (like earning a stripe) to reignite motivation.
Every student hits a bump along the way. What matters is teaching children that showing up, even when they don’t feel like it, is part of what makes martial arts, and life, so powerful. And most of the time, by the end of class, they’ll be glad they came. Martial arts isn’t always easy, and it’s our job to get them through the challenges. You get them in class, and we’ll take care of the rest.
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